Archive for December, 2005

Question: “Who has come to believe Calvinism as a result of [the Webboard]?”

December 29, 2005

My answer:

Gratia said: As a quick aside, I still find myself aghast at the attitudes and reactions of folks like Chappie, when I think of how understanding and embracing Reformed Theology changed my life. As a matter of fact, I’d call it a conversion.

Ditto to this a million times over.

I most definitely came to understand and embrace Calvinism as a result of this board. When I initially came to the Webboard, I had no idea what Calvinism really was, and I’d never heard the term Reformed before. I knew that I wasn’t Presbyterian or Hard-Shell Baptist, but I didn’t know why. I also had this idol of religious knowledge about why I did believe what I believed. I grew up Anabaptist, which isn’t ALL bad, but does have a lot of legalistic and self-reliant tendencies– even though no one involved would EVER admit such things.

After fighting tooth and nail with people like Kirk and Stephen and Richard and so many others, I sort of threw up my hands at it all. I just said to myself that they could believe what they wanted and that I would go on about my merry way. In August of 2003, I decided that God wanted me in Lubbock, Texas of all places, but I didn’t know how I was going to get there. I had so much stuff to move, and I drove a mustang at the time… and conincidentally (yeah right) Andy Hedges was going to be playing a show in the San Antonio area and offered to help me move in exchange for a million home cooked meals. :lol: We talked a lot about what I believed and why I didn’t embrace Calvinism, and staunchly disagreed on many points, but he didn’t push it.

My first week in Lubbock, I ran into yet another Webboarder– Joe Morrow, who was Reformed Baptist. We spent months hanging out pretty constantly, until one afternoon, we were hanging out at Sugar Brown’s Coffee, and he opened his Bible, looked me directly in the eye and asked, “Stephanie, why don’t you believe in Calvinism?” I cautiously walked him through all sorts of Scripture that supported my “views” on things, and meticulously, yet lovingly, he picked apart every single one of my arguments.

I didn’t admit it to him at the time, but I was absolutely furious at him for bringing up these issues… for cornering me. I was actually angry enough at him for about a week to not so much as speak to him. I avoided his phone calls like a cat! I distinctly remember thinking to myself at one point, “It would be so much easier if I could just go on in the path I was on, and act like I didn’t believe a word I read in that Bible, or that I didn’t believe a word that Joe said to me. I could pretend…” Obviously, for someone with such a passionate personality as myself, I couldn’t do that feasibly, but I definitely considered it for an hour or so. :lol:

I don’t always understand a lot of the doctrine, but the Bible has become so incredible ALIVE to me. Scripture and Christ and honestly– MY LIFE makes sense to me now! I guess that’s sort of why I say that it was a conversion for me…. Honestly, and I’ve said this here before– it felt sort of like a salvation experience. The pain of realizing my sin– the shame and guilt and stabbing in my heart that I’d had this idol before my God… and then the incredible feeling of forgiveness both now and in the future… Yes, it most definitely was a conversion!

I am always open to questions about my beliefs, although I must admit that I may not always know the answers right off hand, so anyone who is interested, feel free to ask!

for tlc…

December 28, 2005

don’t lie to me
tell me something true
’cause i’m only free
when i look at you

and you look so good it hurts
and love, i come undone

but i don’t want medication
just give me liberation
even if it cuts my legs right out from underneath
don’t give me medication
i want the real sensation
even when living feels just like death to me

don’t paint my face
i need to see the scars
so i don’t forget
the back of my tutor’s arm

’cause i just can’t keep it straight
which kills and which one saves

but i don’t want medication
just give me liberation
even if it cuts my legs right out from underneath
don’t give me medication
i want the real sensation
even when living feels just like death to me

‘cause the truth is i need you just like the air i breathe
just like a freight train needs the tracks beneath
so i’d rather suffer my whole life and be this rich man’s wife
if loving you means suffering

but i don’t want medication
just give me liberation
even if it cuts my legs right out from underneath
don’t give me medication
i want the real sensation
even when living feels just like death to me

Merry Chrismahanukwanzakuh!

December 25, 2005

…and all that jazz. Hope yours was phenomenal!

updateage

December 18, 2005

i updated.

Year-End Evaluation

December 14, 2005

Life, as I knew it, took a dramatic turn around December of 2003. My entire belief system in regards to God and my life in general changed. What began as something so incredibly uncomfortable and difficult to understand has taken me on this formidable roller coaster ride. My life has been shaken up, turned upside down and inside out, and yet, I feel strangely steady.

As Christmas and New Year’s Day approach, I am compelled to consider 2005 in particular… how my choices have shaped the woman I am at this moment, and the life that she is living in. I am twenty-five years old, and nowhere close to who I thought I would be at this moment, and although I don’t believe I can yet say that I am 100% ok with that notion, I can say that I see purpose in God’s plan.

Dallas has been an incredible experience from start to now… and the start came long before I ever relocated. The start began just under a year ago, when I became reacquainted with an old friend. Our lives became intertwined so much that I was sure that he was “the one”. I couldn’t have been more wrong, in that respect, but nevertheless, God used him to show me so many things about my life. He’ll be moving to another city in less than a month, and I am excited at the new direction his life is taking, while mine continues on here. I love the big city, yet small town aspect of Dallas, and I can honestly see myself here for the rest of my life. Now, if I could just find that church home!

I have lofty goals for this coming year. I really look forward to what the new year brings– the promise of a new start, where everything is “fresh, with no mistakes in it.” I obviously have a few obvious and cliche goals such as losing weight and saving money, but I’d also like to get a good start on my 30-before-30 list. Of that list, I’d like to start on the C.S. Lewis books, and work on painting that portrait. Who knows what all else will come.

I am really looking forward to yet another visit to the Alamo City for Christmas. Hopefully, I will get to see some of the folks I didn’t get to see the last time I visited, like Jessica and Tommy. THEN, I will get have lunch with Brandi the next week, and hopefully, Christina and Kathy will be coming to visit for New Years! I am thrilling!

December 9, 2005

Haven’t felt like writing in a few days, but I have a big one brewing. More to come!

December 9, 2005

Haven’t felt like writing in a few days, but I have a big one brewing. More to come!

Brrr…

December 7, 2005

It is SO cold! Right this second it is 22 degrees, and snowing outside. YAY for winter!!!

Seven Things

December 6, 2005

I’ve been tagged by Brandi.

Seven Things to Do Before I Die (Lord willing):

1. Own a home.
2. Complete my 30 before 30 list.
3. Visit Argentina.
4. Have and/or adopt children.
5. Learn to play the guitar.
6. Freelance for a major sports media outlet (again).
7. Read the complete works of C.S. Lewis.

Seven Things I Cannot Do:
1. Walk and chew gum at the same time.
2. Talk about cake with a straight face.
3. Back into a parking space.
4. Stay mad.
5. Shave without cutting myself.
6. Tolerate liars.
7. Style my hair.

Seven Things that Attract Me to My Spouse/Significant Other:
1. If I had one, his smile.
2. If I had one, his passion for God.
3. If I had one, his whimsical sense of humor.
4. If I had one, his attention to the small things.
5. If I had one, his work ethic.
6. If I had one, his passions in life.
7. If I had one, his loving critisism.

Seven Things I Say (or write!) Most Often:
1. phenomenal
2. sucks
3. rad
4. hey!
5. sundry
6. Miss Ma’am
7. really

Seven Books (or series) I Love:
1. Wait Til Helen Comes
2. The Screwtape Letters
3. The Notebook
4. Freckle Juice
5. Tuck Everlasting
6. Pride and Prejudice
7. Becoming Conversant with the Emerging Church

Seven Movies I Would Watch Over and Over Again:
1. Empire Records
2. The Wedding Planner
3. Life of Brian
4. So I Married an Axe Murderer
5. Sweet Home Alabama
6. Final Destination
7. Napoleon Dynamite

Seven People I Want to Join in:
1. Danielle
2. Katie
3. CJ
4. Christina P.
5. Jessica
6. Heather
7. Chris (the Cakeboy)

Weekend Recap

December 5, 2005

So I am back in the Big D, following a full weekend of craziness in San Antonio. There is so much to tell, and so little time, therefore, I will summarize with the high and low points.

Low Points:

  • My Mom and stepdad barely speaking the entire weekend. Apparently they’ve been fighting over some idiotic thing for about three weeks.
  • Puking at the corner store after my company Christmas party.
  • Someone smoking in my car in my absence. I mean, HOW RUDE!
  • Getting hardly any work done while working remotely from the San Antonio office.
  • Rivercenter Mall. Enough said.
  • High Points:

  • Karaokeing “Baby Got Back” at the company Christmas party. Oh yes.
  • The wine at my company Christmas party.
  • Having mariachis serenade Pam for her 29th birthday.
  • Lunch with a good few of my south/central Texas friends.
  • Fast Eddies on a Friday night.
  • (this very well may be the high point of the entire weekend) Being at my home church, Redeemer, and taking communion with my church family there. It was like one major sigh of relief and rejuvination.
  • In other news, it’s really really cold here… as in, it is supposed to snow a little on Wednesday. This makes me extremely jubilant.

    Also, the Dallas Christmas party is coming up in about two weeks, and if I do say so myself, Pam and I are going to be the hottest chicks within a 20 mile radius. Brandon and James had better look dang good to keep up with us!